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Trouble Switching Homes During Custody Visits

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My Daughter Doesn’t Want to Go with Father for Custody Visits

Hi Susan,

I hope you can help me with my situation.  My husband and I share custody of our seven-year-old daughter.  When it comes time for her to have custody visits with her father, she protests and cries.  Should I try to change custody so that she lives with me full time?


Dear Ellie,

It is very common for children to have anxiety when they are switching houses.  I would not be surprised if she is equally upset when she leaves your ex-husband’s home to come to your house.  It is your job to make that transition smooth for her.  Make the switch from your home to your ex-husbands fast and clean with a cheerful tone.

Susan Shofer Divorce Consultant


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